Candid Karina

Here we are in 2012, a New Year full of new promises and hope.

But before I jump in, I thought I’d take a second to look back and review how I did on my 2011 Goals for the year.

I don’t make resolutions, I stopped doing so years ago.  Now, I have goals.

Here are my 2011 Goals (and how I did on each):

Goals for 2011

1. WRITE. I’m not even going to attempt to fool myself into thinking I can “finish that novel”…but I’m going to set a goal for myself that I WRITE. That I spend some quality time with my novel, with my characters, with my brand new netbook purchased solely for that purpose. Included in this writing goal is also my blog, and a few other writing projects I have in the works…

– FAIL. BIG FAT FAIL. Sigh…. lol

2. Run a 10K. Yep, I did that…I put that out there. Because well…why not? After all, I thought running in general was an impossibility for me, and then, in 2010, I ran my first 5k. I’m starting off the year, quite literally, running a 5k on New Year’s Day…so a big goal for 2011 is to run, run, run…all year run, build up my stamina, increase my pace, and run a 10k. I’m shooting for the Turkey Trot I did as a 5k in 2010…there’s a 10k option, so…why not?

-DONE AND DONE!!! 🙂 AND I reached my goal of doing it in under 1:20.

3. Continue to stay healthy. Going along with the 10K goal is my goal to keep working out regularly, and to work on my diet. By diet I don’t mean “lose weight crash diet”, I mean daily eating habits. I need to change my lazy habits of just grabbing whatever is handy, which leads me to poor choices sometimes. I need to plan meals, and educate myself better on what I should be eating, and what I should not…

– I’m going to call this one a success. I haven’t exactly been “the best” with my diet, but I’ve done mostly okay with that part, and I’ve been HARDCORE at the gym since June, at my new gym, and I even have muscle definition, which wasn’t even in my goal for the year. 😉 I managed to maintain my weight all year, except for the extra “muscle weight” I put on… 🙂

4. Find a church. I have faith. I have an amazing faith family, friends, community. I have regular faith sharing meetings with friends, where we worship and we pray and we share. But I don’t have a church. I won’t get into all the details behind why I can’t go to the church that has been my church for decades…let’s just say that the priest and the services don’t give me the nutrition my faith requires and leave it at that. But this means I am without a place to worship on Sundays. Sometimes, during the week, I will attend lunch time services at a church within walking distance from my work. Once a month I attend a church service in Boston on Friday night geared toward young adults (20’s and 30’s) which I LOVE. But I have yet to find a place where I feel welcome and fulfilled on Sunday mornings. And I need to. I want to. I must.

– I think I can call this one a success as well. I haven’t “officially” joined my new parish, but I have a place I go to mass on Sundays that feels like “home”… 🙂

5. Do something new every month. I’ve been thinking about this a lot, because I’ve been doing a little bit of this the last few months. Doing things I’ve never thought I could do. Doing things I just have never gotten around to doing. Trying new things, or experiencing things everyone seems to have done, but I for some reason, have not. This includes silly things such as watching movies that are “Classics” but I’ve never seen (A Charlie Brown Christmas, for example, which I watched for the first time ever the other night), to more serious tasks (such as that 10k), to everything in between…ice skating, skiing perhaps, flying a kite…the possibilities are endless.

– well, I really don’t know if I did this “officially”, but I think I might have…I was very busy this year, and I made sure to stay active, to try new things, to challenge myself and to LIVE life…so I’m going to call it a success.

6. Travel to Europe. Okay, so this one is a bit of a cheat, because I have a trip to Portugal pretty much planned in October. I have friends from here getting married there, and a group of us are planning on traveling together to their wedding. But my goal is to turn this trip into a lengthier stay, and hopping over to Spain, France, England, Italy…pretty much any other country I can make it to on the airfare across the ocean. Now I just need to find a willing travel companion, and…well…the funds.

– BOO!!! 😦 Fail. Not only did I not travel to Europe, I didn’t travel ANYWHERE this year. BUT…my brother got married and I was in his wedding, so…there’s that… ;-p

7. Be more charitable. This doesn’t necessarily mean financially, although that too. But I’m thinking more along the lines of trying to live the talk…do more for others, give of my time, be more a part of this world we live in, in a giving, unselfish, charitable way.

– YES. 🙂 I think I definitely did this. I really worked hard at being more giving and loving all year, and I signed up to sponsor a little girl in the Philippines and I ended the year with giving my family personalized “donation promises” for Christmas. Meaning, each family/couple got a card from me with a charity that I picked according to their personalities and stuff, which I will donate to during different months next year on their behalf. 🙂

8. Spend more time with my little sister. She turns 18 this coming year, and I feel that with our busy schedules, we don’t spend as much time together as we used to. It’s perfectly understandable, but I have to make more of an effort to be present in her world. I’m the constant she needs, the positive influence she has, and I have to remember that and make more of an effort.

– This one was hard. Not for lack of trying, and we did really well in the beginning of the year, with our cooking dates, but then she got really serious about school, and busy as an 18 year old will get, so we haven’t spent as much time together as I’d like…but we’ve had some great moments in our relationship this year…

9. Cook more. As I said in a post last week, I don’t cook often, but I plan to do that more this year, in fact, I plan to attempt a new recipe once a week…

– Like the last one, I started off great at the beginning of the year, but but they summer, it all fell apart. lol

10. Fall In Love. What? Eventually this is going to happen. I’m going to add to this one this year…fall in love with someone who will love me back. Date more. Continue to be open, and trust that the right one will come along…and have fun in the process.

– Well… at least I met someone with whom that potential is still present. So far we still haven’t gotten past the “talking” stage…but at least i’m out there…so…yeah…there’s always 2012.

Speaking of 2012, here are my goals for 2012:

1. Write for at least 2 hours a week. My plan is to dedicate an evening each week to go sit somewhere and write. I’m going to call it class, and stick to it as if attendance were being marked by a teacher. I’m thinking Thursday nights for the “January semester”. ;-p The writing can be blogging, or working on my book, or whatever…as long as I’m writing.

2. Do pull-ups. Prior to last year I had ZERO upper body strength. I couldn’t do a single push up. I can now do 6 in a row…not a lot, but it’s a start. I also have a lot more upper body strength. However, I still cannot do a pull-up to save my life. I’ve never been able to, and I remember that being the thing I failed in fitness tests in school. I got a pull-up bar for Christmas. This year, I WILL be doing pull-ups.

3. Change my diet. This one is that constant struggle, but I eat like crap. I’m working too hard at the gym to eat the way I do. So, this is not “go on a diet”, it is “change my diet”…change certain elements, focus on eating healthier options, etc.

4. TRAVEL. 2011 was a big fat disappointment in terms of travel. So I need to travel more in 2012. That’s all there is to it. 🙂

5. Simplify. Keep going with my goal to declutter and do away with all the excess “stuff” in my life. this means not only material things, but activities, people, stress, etc. All that “extra” that takes away from the important things in life.

6. Date. I’m changing it from “fall in love” which was said sort of as in jest last year, to a more real “date”. I need to get out and date this year. Enough said.

7. Be more charitable. I’m repeating this one from last year, because it’s a good one. I’m far too blessed to be greedy and selfish, I need to give back. As much as possible, as often as possible.

8. Become more involved in my new church. Last year my goal was to find a church that felt like home. I did that. now I need to become more involved.

And…I think that’s it.

et cetera