Candid Karina











{January 19, 2012}   On Dating…

For the record, just to catch you all up, since this blog is making it’s SLOW return from a sleeping beauty like slumber the last year or so, I am, in fact, still single.

And although my relationship status has not changed, my attitude about dating has.

For quite a long time now, I have been on this self-imposed dating hiatus. I needed a break from men. And then, it seemed, I just didn’t realize how that break turned into a way of life. Being single suited me.

Or perhaps, it was just easier than the pain of finding happiness within myself, before I could find it with someone else.

But in the last several years, I have grown. A LOT.

I have dedicated tremendous time and energy into looking deep within, and transforming myself into the person I was meant to be.

I have, in the process, experienced both pain and joy greater than I thought possible.

I have, mentally, spritually AND physically, transformed myself.

And now I find myself, on the other side of this transformation (although, truly, it is an ongoing thing), prepared to admit that I am ready to share my life with someone.

Which is all well and good. Until I start looking at my options.

OH….the dating game. Nope, I didn’t miss this part of it.

I won’t bore you with the details, but lately I have found myself in a series of potential relationships, only to discover that the dreaded “man-child” seems to be the norm amongst single men in their 30’s today.

Somewhere along the way, this new breed of man, who can’t seem to decide if he wants to be in or out of a relationship, has developed.

I get the feeling I’m not the only one coming across these guys…you know the type, don’t you? One minute they are all over the idea of getting to know you, and then they disappear for weeks at a time. Only to resurface with a vengeance, making “mixed signals” the biggest understatement of the year.

And I’m not the type of girl to expect a man to do “all the work”…I’m so not against asking a man out for coffee…but this neither here nor there? It’s exhausting.

And I know relationships are hard…but shouldn’t the beginning stages be the easiest part? Shouldn’t that be the time when all is hearts and stars in your eyes??

So, here I am. Single. In my 30’s. Willing to give it an honest shot. And completely and utterly perplexed as to how to go about it next…

This should make for some good blogging at least.



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